Caregiver's Guide to the Breastfed Baby


There may be times when, for a variety of reasons, nursing mothers need or want to leave their nursing baby with a caregiver. This may be a ‘once only’ event, or a regular daily arrangement.

There may be times when, for a variety of reasons, nursing mothers need or want to leave their nursing baby with a caregiver.  This may be a ‘once only’ event, or a regular daily arrangement.

     The following information is intended as a guide for the caregiver of a breastfed baby, so she/he can better understand how to care for the baby and the expressed breastmilk (EBM) left for the baby’s use.

General Information

    Human milk does not look like formula or cow’s milk.  It may be a different color or consistency, and it is normal for it to be bluish, greenish, or even brownish in color.  Frozen milk, or milk expressed during the early days of nursing (which still contains colostrum) may look yellowish.  Human milk that is properly stored is not spoiled, unless it smells sour or tastes bad.

     Because human milk is not homogenized, it will naturally separate into layers of milk and cream.  This is normal, and does not mean the milk is spoiled.  If the milk separates, heat and swirl it gently to mix.

     Several batches of EBM expressed at different times may be mixed and/or stored together to make enough for one feeding.  A mother’s EBM should only be used for her baby.  For health reasons, milk from different mothers should not be pooled.

     Because a baby digests and uses human milk so completely, less breastmilk than formula may be needed at a feeding. There is no way to predict exactly how much milk a baby will need at each feeding, but you will soon learn how much milk the baby usually takes.  As a rule of thumb, babies three months and under usually take between two and four ounces, and babies over three months will take from four to six ounces.  It is a good idea to have some one or two- ounce portions available for snack feedings.

     Until you get a feel for how much the baby will consistently take at each feeding, offer small amounts of EBM at a time.  If the baby is not very hungry, you will not then have to waste large quantities of milk. If he needs more, prepare another smaller amount.

     You should be aware that a breastfed baby may not be on the same feeding schedule as a formula fed baby.  Breastmilk is digested quickly, and the baby may need to feed more frequently.  Also, many nursing babies are used to nursing for comfort as well as nutrition, and my need extra cuddling and rocking, especially at naptime.  Be flexible, and as you spend time with the baby you will get to know his own unique schedule, and you will be able to comfort him in your own way.

    Breastfed baby’s bowel movements are looser than formula fed infants, and may be more frequent (especially in the early weeks).  It is not unusual for a newborn nursing baby to have a loose stool every time he feeds, but this is not diarrhea (unless accompanied by fever, lethargy, vomiting, or other symptoms of illness).  In breastfed babies older than six weeks, it is not unusual for babies to go several days without stooling.  In a totally breastfed infant, this is not considered constipation.  Constipation consists of hard, dry stools that are painful to pass.  An older nursing baby may not stool every day, but the stool will be loose and plentiful when he does pass it. Totally breastfed baby’s stools are usually mustard yellow and seedy, but may also be yellow green or brownish.  They are much milder smelling than a formula fed baby’s stools.                                           

Thawing and Heating 

     To thaw frozen EBM, it is best to leave it in the refrigerator for about twelve hours. If  you need to thaw it quickly, hold the container of milk under cool running water, and gradually add warmer water until the milk is thawed and heated to room temperature, gently swirling to mix in the fat. 

     To heat refrigerated EBM, put the container of milk in a pan of warm (not hot) water just until the chill is off.  Many babies don’t mind if the milk is cold, and serving it right out of the refrigerator is not harmful.  Run the nipple under warm water, though, as most babies don’t like the feel of a cold nipple.

     NEVER thaw or heat EBM in a microwave.  This can destroy valuable nutrients, and can also create dangerous ‘hot spots’ that can burn the baby’s mouth, even though the bottle may feel cool to the touch.  For the same reasons, do not boil or overheat EBM.

     Use thawed EBM within twenty-four hours. 

    EBM that has been refrigerated but not frozen will keep for up to eight days in a refrigerator.

Encouraging Baby to Feed

      Many breastfed babies are reluctant to take a bottle at first.  A hard rubber nipple feels and tastes very different from soft skin.  Babies may refuse to take a bottle from their mother since they associate her with nursing, but will take it more readily from a caregiver, especially if the mother is not in the room.  Most babies adjust more easily if they get to know their caregiver gradually, so it may be helpful to try a program of visits and short stays (that include a feeding time) before baby is left for longer periods.

     Tips to get the baby to take a bottle include:

Offer the bottle before the baby gets frantically hungry.

Offer the bottle in a position other than the traditional cradle hold (many babies associate this position with nursing). It sometimes works well to sit the baby in an infant seat or prop him on your knees while offering the bottle.

Wrap the baby in a piece of the mother’s clothing while offering the bottle.

Tickle the baby’s mouth gently with the bottle nipple and let him draw it in himself, rather than pushing it in.

Run warm water over the nipple before offering it.

Try different types of nipples to find a shape and flow rate that the baby will accept.

Try moving rhythmically – rocking, walking, or swaying from side to side while offering the bottle.

     If the baby will absolutely not take the bottle, he can be fed EBM by other methods, such as cup, spoon, syringe, or dropper.  With a little time and patience, he will usually learn to accept the bottle.

When the Mother Will Be Returning Soon

     If the baby becomes unsettled, try rocking and talking to him rather than feeding him. Offer a pacifier if he is used to using it, and the mother approves. When the mother returns, she will probably want to feed him as soon as possible for practical reasons – her own comfort, closeness with her baby, and to stimulate her milk supply.  If you can’t get him settled, offer a small amount of EBM.  If no milk is available, offer a small amount of boiled water. The mother should be consulted before any other liquids are offered to her baby.  If the baby is old enough to eat solid foods, you may be able to offer something that has been tolerated previously.  Always check this with the mother first.

Your Relationship With the Baby’s Mother

     You can be an enormous help to the baby’s mother in supporting her efforts to provide breastmilk for her baby.  Mothers choose to provide EBM for their infants when they have to be separated from them because they want the very best for their babies.  Making the decision to leave breastmilk rather than formula, and to continue the nursing relationship even after returning to work or school requires a great deal of commitment on the mother’s part. Your encouragement and support can make all the difference, especially if the mother arranges to come to your home or day care center to feed her baby.

     There are times when a baby may go through periods of appetite increase.  These “growth spurts” often occur at about six weeks, three months, and six months.  If you let the mother know, she will then try to express more milk.  Sometimes it takes a few days for her supply to catch up.  If the mother knows you support her efforts to provide breastmilk for her baby, you will be contributing in a very positive way to helping her continue to nurse. Remember: BREASTMILK IS THE PERFECT FOOD FOR BABIES!  Your encouragement and support is very important.


About the Author:

ANNE SMITH, BA, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, certified La Leche League Leader since 1978 and experienced nursing mother of 6, has been counseling nursing mothers for more than 20 years. Anne has extensive experience in the realm of breastfeeding education and support, including leading support group meetings, teaching breastfeeding classes, training breastfeeding peer counselors to work with low income mothers, working one-on-one with mothers to solve breastfeeding problems, and teaching OB, Pediatric, and Family Practice Residents breastfeeding at Bowman Gray School of Medicine. For more information and support, visit Anne's online breastfeeding resource at

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