Making decisions is often one of the most difficult tasks you will face as an infertile couple. Should we stop treatment ? Should we consider adoption ? Should we switch doctors ? Should we move on to IVF ? How many embryos should we transfer ? Should we ask for an assisted hatch or a blastocyst transfer ?
Making decisions is often one of the most difficult tasks you will face as an infertile couple. Should we stop treatment ? Should we consider adoption ? Should we switch doctors ? Should we move on to IVF? How many embryos should we transfer ? Should we ask for an assisted hatch or a blastocyst transfer ?
Given the fact that IVF is still more of an art than a science; that “luck” still plays a very important role; and that we still cannot predict who will get pregnant when, you are likely to be completely confused by conflicting information and contradictory opinions . Whom can you trust ? How can you decide ? And the fact that you and your spouse may have completely different priorities and opinion can make a bad situation even worse !
Unfortunately, many intelligent couples fall into the trap of paralysis by analysis. They often end up making no decision at all, which is often the worst decision of all ! Others just blindly do what their doctor suggests . If they are lucky and they have a good doctor, all goes well. But what if their doctor is greedy or incompetent ?
There really are no easy decision , and often there is no "right" or "wrong" decision. You can read more about how to use your brain to make intelligent decisions by reading the Chapter, Making Decisions, in our book, How to Have a Baby.
However, if you are still confused, here’s some advise which many of our patients find very helpful. We suggest that they take the “ path of least regret.” What does this mean ?
Pretend, for a minute, that you are 60 years old, and you are looking back at this moment with the wisdom of hindsight. Which decision will you kick yourself less for ? What will give you peace of mind when you are 60 that you did your best ? As Krishna advises in the Bhagvad Gita , “Karmanye vadhika raste maa faleshu kadachan” -
- perform the right action without hungering for the fruits !
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Malpani Infertility Clinic